lets take Dougs suggestion just a little further its the same system i use in my own car
first off to trigger just a single flashing indicator light on the dash for your turns signals use a 3 pin turn signal flasher it gives you an output to drive a single light that will flash whether you are turning left or right
to do the taillights go to your local auto parts store and buy a cheap turn signal adapter the ones that are used when you want to tow a trailer with 2 element bulbs with a european car that has 3 element taillights
saves that whole big hassle of the 4 relay setup to do that job and is much cheaper just hook it up according the the drawings provided with the unit and you are in business
2 tips for the above make absolutely sure that your tail light assemblies have really good grounds to the point of running a dedicated ground out to the light assemblies
secondly don't energize the adapter without the above mentioned ground because usually by about the third flash in an ungrounded setup they become junk
ps .......i also have a small piezo buzzer hooked to my indicator flasher to remind me to cancel my turn signals
2 elements 3 functions tail/running lights, brake lights,turn signals