1) on the outboard side, the nubby grommet won't sit all the way against the spring plate. the welding on the spring plate interferes. see ->

SHOULD it seat FLUSH? i could fix this, by deepening the camfer on the inside of the grommet. good idea?
2) on the inboard side, the round grommet seats flush to the plate seems loose around the shaft. lots of wiggle room - enough to stick a penny in there. see ->

i ASSUME this is BAD? i mean it seems like the grommet wouldn't do jack to locate the spring plate. am i wrong? does it compress or something? fixable, or go stock rubber.
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more info:
why urethane anyway? this if for autocrossing. i want the suspension TIGHT, not wobbly. but this doesn't seem to be helping.
the spring plates are sway-a-way. i contacted them directly about which size grommets to use for this application, so i have what they recommend.
the grommets are bugpack. i've tried another set of inners, and they were even MORE loose.